9. September 2004, 23:59

About friendship

So, there are friends - and just friends. I mean, for me a friend, a real friend, is something really deep, something really true.

I had some friends, yet - and still know them, some old classmates of mine. I have still contact to them, but we are at different places now, so we haven't seen eachother for months or even years. After The Wall came down, a lot has changed and everyone has gone his own way; unfortunately to different parts of the country. One is in Hamburg, one is near Cologne and one is in Dresden now.

But it is always hard for me to call us friends, because I am not quite sure, if it is a kind of friendship I would understand of real friendship. Among friends, in my opinion, there must not be secrets - everything can be said without to fear, that anyone else know it the next day. And you must have the feeling, that he would understand everything. And when I say everything I mean everything!

And that's, what I think, I cannot expect. And this is rather pity. Both have to trust eachother 100 percent. But, probably, I just haven't tried it so far...

Furthermore, I think, a friendship cannot be a one-way-street. Friendship means to take but also to give. And to give should be more pleasant for the friend (as it is for me). For example, if one friend receives every day a postcard, then he should know, what to do.

So, in my point of view, a real friendship is almost as deep as a partnership - and it is almost as difficult to find a really true friend as it is to find a partner for life.